To Raise Happy Kids, Put Your Marriage First
To Raise Happy Kids, Put Your Marriage First

To Raise Happy Kids, Put Your Marriage First

Parent/Educator

FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS

288 Pages, 5.38 x 8.25

Formats: Paperback, ebook: EPUB, Mobipocket

Paperback, $24.95 (US $24.95) (CA $33.95)

Publication Date: September 2009

ISBN 9780824525385

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Overview

A win-win approach to balancing relationships within the family

Addressing a common, destructive pattern in marriages, this guide helps couples reduce the distance in their marriage, thereby reducing the emotional baggage projected onto the children. When a marriage drifts apart, spouses tend to drift toward their children, creating an emotional burden that causes children to act out. Making children the center of family lives seems child friendly but it creates demanding, entitled children and starves the marriage of intimacy. Instructing spouses on how to identify the ways they unknowingly distance from each other this book show how to prevent the slow drift toward divorce. Putting marriage first also reduces the temptation of parents to look to the children to fulfill their intimacy needs, freeing children to grow into their own identity and learn self-reliance as they pursue their own passions. This guide helps couples balance family relationships to recapture the joy of marriage and take pride in contented, self-reliant children.

Reviews

"I found David’s articles very insightful personally . . . Many thanks!" —John Carey, senior correspondent, Business Week

"You will never look at your family's problems the same way again. David Code is a big-picture thinker with a gift for translating scientific facts into practical solutions. His new solutions to common family problems can help solidify your marriage and improve your parenting." —Jaak Panksepp, neuroscientist and author, Affective Neuroscience

"Every parent, and every couple, should read this book to prevent them from having an affair with their child[ren]. What misery and suffering for all concerned, for generations to come, when couples put their marriage anywhere but first. A must-read." —Harville Hendrix, PhD, author, Getting the Love You Want and Giving the Love that Heals: A Guide for Parents

"David Code offers a game-changing combination of Bowen family systems theory, brain research, and studies on animal instincts, to help us understand why humans do what we do in families." —Peter Titelman, PhD, clinical psychologist, editor, Triangles: Bowen Family Systems Theory Perspectives and Emotional Cutoff

"Provides a win-win solution for the challenges facing today's families. . . . He explains why good marriages produce good kids, and provides helpful advice for building a strong marriage. " —Glenn Firebaugh, PhD, author, Seven Rules for Social Research

"David Code, in a step-wise approach, identifies and addresses how one, in a very practical way, can improve their marriage and thus, the entire family. I recommend his book most highly." —David D. Sherry, MD, professor of pediatrics, Children's Hospital of Philadelphia and University of Pennsylvania

"Stress has become a pervasive problem for couples struggling to balance the hectic lives of their kids with their own demanding jobs. David Code provides powerful preventive medicine that 'inoculates' spouses who are currently doing well, but can benefit from his family-strengthening advice." —Ron Roel, former editor, Newsday

Author Biography

David Code is an Episcopal minister and family coach who blogs on the topics of marriage and parenting for a Pennsylvania newspaper site. He founded the Center for Staying Married & Raising Great Kids, and has written for the Wall Street Journal. He lives in State College, Pennsylvania.